Child Development and Milestones: Your 4-year-9-month-old

Child Development and Milestones: Your 4-year-9-month-old

In this article, we will explore your child’s development at 57 months old.

Your not-so-little 57 month old child (or 4-year-9-month-old) is inching closer to the big “five.” At this stage, you’ll notice him becoming his own person and developing his own sense of identity. One of the most prominent 57 month old child development and milestones is his keen interest in taking initiative and displaying a desire to learn new things, while being responsible for his actions to some extent.

In this article, we explore your 57 month old (4-year-9-month-old) child’s development and milestones. Keep in mind that because every child learns and develops at his own pace, it is not necessary that your child should hit all milestones at the same time as his peers.

If however, you are are worried about your child’s development, visit the doctor for a professional opinion.  

4 Year 9 Month Old Child Development and Milestones: Is Your Child on Track?

4 Year 9 Month Old Child Development and Milestones

4 Year 9 Month Old Child Development and Milestones

Physical development

Your 4-year-9-month-old child has developed great self-control and ingenuity. He has also become more self-reliant and is able to master one-legged hops, and is even able to steer his toys away from “traffic” and other obstacles.

In addition to these, your little one should be able to: 

  • Walk in a straight line, by himself
  • Pedal and steer a toy around and away from obstacles
  • Throw a ball overhead and determine distance and aim
  • Run in a circle without help
  • Draw and paint with purpose and able to hold a marker or pen with a three-finger grasp
  • Use arms to increase his speed of running
  • Run, stop, and move, all the while manoeuvring around obstacles
  • Jump over objects 12 to 15 cm (5 to 6 in) in height and land with both feet together

In addition to these physical developments, you may also notice your tiny tot climbing ladders and trees with confidence. He is also able to reproduce a few shapes and sizes, which means his motor skills are fast developing.


  • Your little dynamo still requires a safe environment to hone those motor skills. Provide him with this, so that he can be a proper little explorer.
  • Give him time to practice and develop his motor skills. 
  • Start teaching him about shapes and sizes and encourage him to paint or draw. Practice creating new shapes with play-doh. These activities strengthen fine motor skills. 
  • Ask him to practice writing using a pencil or a chalk and teach him how to use a two-finger grasp. But don’t push this on him, let him take his time and get comfortable with this activity.

When to talk to your doctor

Your child

  • Is unable to walk straight, stand on one foot or jump
  • Has difficulty holding a pen at all and is unable to draw or identify any shapes at all

Cognitive development

Cognitive skills are related to your child’s mental development. At this stage, not only is his imagination taking full flight, but he’s also adding layers to it and creating a whole new world of make-belief.

His outgoing personality implies that he is going to explore, ask questions, and delight in wordplay. This is the time when you should let his imagination run wild as he conjures up his own secret language.

One of the many 57 month old child development and milestones include the ability to read simple books and understand the sequence of daily events. So when you tell him, “Please brush your teeth,” or “Please get dressed for breakfast,” he will be able to understand and follow these instructions easily.

Your child can also:

  • Recognise similar sounding words
  • Name 18 to 20 letters and words
  • Understand the concept of “tallest,” “biggest,” “more,” “same”
  • Count to 20
  • Follow two to three step instructions given individually or in a group
  • When looking at images, recognise the missing person or animal
  • Is a very good storyteller


  • You might feel tempted to instruct your little storyteller to stop making up stories. But allowing him to use his imagination will help develop his cognitive skills.
  • Give him specific yet simple instructions in the morning so as to help him better understand his daily routine.
  • Practice counting objects and people, as well as words and alphabets. It’s also a good idea to practice puzzles with your child.    

When to talk to your doctor

  • If your child is unable to follow simple-two step instructions
  • If your child cannot count up to at least five
  • Cannot speak a short sentence
Help your little one learn numbers and words by practicing counting objects and people, as well as words and alphabets.

Help your little one learn numbers and words by practicing counting objects and people, as well as words and alphabets.

Social and Emotional Development

By the age of four, most kids are bursting with energy and are often outgoing, enthusiastic, and extremely playful. So be ready for a whole lot of running around and physical activities.

But it’s also an age when kids can be quite moody. So if they are happy and smiley sometimes, they can almost immediately switch to being upset or angry. 

One of the most common 57 month old child milestones pertaining to social skills is their desire to do participate in group activities. Interestingly, there are a lot many such social milestones including the following:

  • Wants to participate in group plays, and is overly friendly and excited
  • Can become boastful and hold conversations with imaginary friends, and might share a strong emotional bond with these said friends
  • Seeks frequent adult approval, and shows pride in accomplishment
  • He may appear a bit self-absorbed and might want to tattle on other kids
  • Your child may also want to boss others around and rely more on verbal rather than physical aggression.  

This is a crucial stage for both the parents and the kids because he is just now learning to properly interact with others. Communication is key at this stage and so as parents it’s important that you are clear with your instructions and you set a good example for him to follow.


  • Occasional tantrums are still common, but scolding or yelling is not the best way to deal with them. These are fleeting tantrums so your cool composure will force your kid to calm down as well.
  • Don’t stop him from enjoying his make-belief world with his imaginary friends. Let his imagination run wild.
  • Encourage him to engage in outdoor activities and with a large group of kids. If you see him being bossy, ask him to speak with his friends politely and why it’s necessary to show empathy.

When to talk to your doctor

  • If your kid struggles to express himself in simple sentences or simply refuses to interact with others
  • He displays erratic behaviour with extreme bouts of frustration or anger at you and his peers
Keep an eye on your child's behaviour and if you find him/her sitting aloof way too often, consider that a red flag and speak with them immediately.

Keep an eye on your child’s behaviour and if you find him/her sitting aloof way too often, consider that a red flag and speak with them immediately.

Speech and language development

One of the many 57 month old development and milestones includes intelligible speech. Your kid is now able to say complete and sometimes complex sentences such as: “I saw the cat run under the stairs and then climb that tree.”

At this stage, he will also be able to answer questions about him being hungry or cold. Plus, he will be able to recite simple poems and songs with ease. Don’t be surprised if you spot him using past tense such as: “Mummy closed the door,” or “Dad went out.”

These, however, are just a few of the many speech and language milestones he’ll hit at this stage. Expect the following as well:

  • Can now use prepositions such as “after,” “on,” “for”
  • Uses possessive terms correctly, so expect him to say “baby’s” or “daddy’s/mummy’s”
  • Refers to people, animals, objects, and things that are not present
  • Is able to alter the tone and structure of the sentence to adapt to the listener’s level of understanding. For instance, he can say “Want cookie?” to his baby sister and/or “I was going out but I wanted to say bye’ to you.”
  • Can answer to “who?” “why?” “when?” and “how?”


Your tiny tot is growing up fast, which means there is no longer any need for cutesy baby talk. Here are a few more things you can do:

  • Try talking to him as normally as you would with any other adult
  • Encourage him to answer in full sentences and to speak with those he doesn’t know yet (under your supervision)
  • Ask him the names of his siblings, parents and even home address and number. By this age, they are able to learn these basics quickly.
  • Practice framing proper sentences with him and recite poems or rhymes together  

When to talk to your doctor

If your child’s speech development worries you, you should speak with your paediatrician to ease your concern. But also keep an eye out for the following:

  • Is unable to speak intelligibly and appears to slur or struggle while framing sentences
  • He is not able to change the tone of his voice or adapt to the understanding level of the listener

Health and Nutrition

At 57 months, your kid would approximately weigh around 18 kgs and be around three feet tall. He will also gain anywhere between two and three kilos of weight and grow between five and eight cms per year.

He also needs a minimum of  7,100 kJ (1,700 kcal) daily, plus plenty of sleep and regular nutrition.

Nutrient Amount Needed Daily What To Feed Them
Calcium & Vitamin D 1,000 milligrams of calcium and 3,000 IU (International Units) of vitamin D 3 cups of low-fat dairy products including one cup of cheese and yogurt and two cups of milk.
Iron 10 milligrams 4 small beef meatballs with spaghetti, or pork, poultry, and seafood patties; or an egg or a small chicken sandwich with beans and tomatoes on the side.
Vitamin C No more than 650 milligrams/ day One cup of strawberries, or one cup of tomato puree in spaghetti, or  a cup of sweet potatoes, green peppers, and an orange.

Vaccinations and Common Illnesses

Your child should be vaccinated for the following diseases by this age: 

Common illness you need to watch out for include polio, chicken pox, flu, measles, mumps, and whooping cough.

When to talk to your doctor

If you’ve been feeding your kid adequate amount of nutrients and you still notice the following, it’s best to take him to the doctor:

  • He is very short or underweight. 
  • Falls ill very often
  • Displays unexpected bruises or lumps.

References: WebMD, CDC